Blogging with Note 8

Hi everyone! I am trying out blogging with my new Samsung Note 8, first birthday present received this year. Yes! I am turning 30 soon!

Hope s note will make my blog post more fun and interesting,and hope you'II like it!

l went Clarins for facial today! Was busy dealing with morning sickness then wanling going to childcare past few months, so decided to give myself some 'Me' time today. Did skin analysis as usual, was quite upset that Fiona, the consultant, say I should start anti-aging skincare and recommended eye care especially coz the lines ard my eyes can be seen when I smile... But I look radiant after the facial! Happy and satisfied!

Wanling has not settle down in school yet. Still ccrying when I drop her with the teachers. Hope it'll get better next week.

周末在马来西亚

刚从妈妈在马来西亚的家度过了愉快的周末 。很开心终于有机会又带琬玲过去。其实在那没做什么，只是过着吃了就睡的生活，可是过得特别惬意！特别是不干什么，只是呆呆坐在客厅看英君和琬玲跑来跑去就很开心了。

两个年纪相仿的小孩，依依丫丫的都不会说话。可是你追我打地玩得特投机！大部份时间都是琬玲这个管家婆追着哥哥跑，一下叫哥哥不要爬高爬低，一下要哥哥坐下读书，不然就没事跟着哥哥到处转。两个小朋友玩熟后就开始有争执。一下是琬玲拉英君的衣服要他让位，一下是英君不让琬玲碰他排好的衣架。只看着两个小孩总是这分钟拥抱和好，下分钟又起争执， 我们大人做和事佬忙得不可开交。可是回想起来又好好笑！

记得上一次他俩一起去马来西亚时都才刚学会爬。大部份时间都要睡觉，也不会一起玩。不知道下次有机会一起去他们会是什么样子了。。。

琬玲真是个特别的小孩

琬玲是我见过最特别的小孩。

她爱吃菜，尤其豆芽！ 给她一块肉，她一定摇头不吃，偏偏指着桌上绿绿的青菜吵着要吃。当然最后有没又咽下是另一回事。

她爱喝中国茶。奶奶教书时总有一杯中国茶在桌上。她总是会爬上来凑热闹抢着喝。喝过后总会有尝到人间美味的满足表情。

她爱吃中药。樱桃口味，漂亮粉红色的西药，她宁死不吃。可是只要远远喊着：‘喝葛根汤咯！‘她就会兴奋地跑过来，飞速的喝完。若她喝牛奶有这般热情就好。

她独立，好学，意志力很强。许多东西我们都没特别教她，她都凭自己的意志力学会。她1岁半时就想学会自己穿鞋。她努力不懈的在家脱了又穿脱了又穿，穿不上就生气可是她不曾放弃。这样练习了很久，她终于学会穿拖鞋，脱穿自如还会穿拖鞋跑呢！她也是这样学会自己吃饭。开始吃饭过后没多久，她不愿我们喂，抢着勺子一定要自己吃。

那么爱独立的她却不愿一个人睡！睡觉一定要有人在身边。就像现在，就是要拉着我的手才肯睡，像是怕我跑开紧紧抓着不放。

你有见过像她这样特别的小孩吗？

Pride and Prejudice

First, I would like to apologize for the previous long post. Didn't mean to write so long, just wanna share some random thoughts...

So on a lighter note, I am going to share on Pride and Prejudice, the movie and novel. though the previous post has nothing to do with the movie...

A few years ago, I watched the movie Pride and Prejudice directed by Joe Wright based on the same name novel written by Jane Austen. I love the movie so much that I went on to read the novel.

It is a romantic love story of how two people so suitable for each other overcome their pride and prejudice and finally got together. Of course there's other interesting characters like Elizabeth's sisters, Mr Darcy's friends etc , and insights to that period social class differences  which makes the story not just a love story.

Keira Knightley's performance as Elizabeth was stunningly beautiful, much more outstanding than when she was in Pirates of the Carribean.
Mathew Macfayden is also very charming as the awkwardly proud Mr Darcy.

So if u have time, and have not watch or read Pride and Prejudice, can take some time to go watch / read it!

Pride and Prejudice 傲慢与偏见

前阵子爸爸跟弟弟说了好一段关于“扭曲的思想”。他说人特别是在年轻的时候，总会有许多对于人事物过于执著的己见，往往都会太过认为自己的想法是对的而对产生一些“扭曲”的想法。我归类这种现象为“傲慢与偏见”， “Pride and Prejudice" 。因为自负，执著于己见，即是对事物产生了偏见也没能察觉。

爸爸说，人都会觉得自己的想法一定是对的，自己想出来的怎么可能会错呢？可是事实常常事实证明我们的想法不一定会是对的。有些时候有可能只是欠缺考量，没有从不同的观点考虑而已。可是我们往往因为自尊心，不能放下“自己”虚心接受别人的意见或想法。

我最近在看一部叫“拥抱太阳的月亮”的韩剧。戏里国王用心良苦为世子安排年轻的文状元成为他的老师，希望世子能有个亦师亦友的良伴。世子却认为父王是因为看不起他才安排年仅比自己大三岁的人当老师，所以拒绝上课。老师为了纠正世子的学习态度，提议和世子打个赌，他出一道谜语，若世子能在一星期内答对他就辞去老师一职，相反若世子无法答对世子就必须正式拜他为师。他出的谜语是：“什么可以让人一瞬间从黑暗看到光明？”

你猜得出吗？

世子花了一整星期的时间，翻遍所有的书后，很自信的回答：“国王若能很好的治理国家，人民就能衣食无忧，安居乐业。相反若国王昏庸无能，人民就会如同活在地狱。所以贤王的统治可以让人瞬间从黑暗看到光明。” 可是老师却说：“这不是我的答案。我的答案是眼皮。关上眼皮世界是黑暗的，可是一张开世界就变光明了。可是，你的答案很好。若王执著于自己的傲慢与偏见，怎么成为贤王让人民过好生活呢？”

这篇文字，我花了很多时间写。因为在写的同时也一直在检视自己，也想着一些朋友的处境。爸爸说宗教让他改变了自己许多“扭曲的想法”， 我想那是一种智慧。可是有时年纪越大越难改变偏见（因为会以为自己经历更多更成熟，而越来越傲慢。）今天XL跟我说他已经无法像以前一样只听朋友吐苦水。他想要给他的朋友意见，想要说他的看法，想要帮他的朋友指出他的缺点希望他会改变。可是他的朋友却觉得他已经那么不好受，为什么他还要一直说他错，不能说点让他好过一点的话。我曾经也有这样的苦恼。明明这种事一再的发生在你身上，一定是你做了些什么让这种事一再在你身上发生，不可能是一直都是别人的错，不可能世上那么多人偏偏你总遇到同中的人对你做同样的事。身边的人都给你类似的劝解，怎么你都听不进去？把你当朋友，希望你更好才跟你说，你却把我当敌人，或对我生气说我不挺你，不了解你。。。一味的阿谀奉承是坏朋友才做的事，我可是你的好朋友耶。。。你有过这样的经历吗？

后来我知道了。当一个人在气头上，或在困境时，思想都会像在迷宫里一样。在负面情绪和思绪中没有人可以理智的。他也是把你当好朋友才向你吐苦水。这时他需要的只是安慰，只是鼓励。这时给朋友正面力量，不是阿谀奉承而是当朋友的精神支柱。分析和意见，只有在当事人愿意听的时候才是帮助，不然只是负面能量，只是垃圾，只是破坏感情的凶器。

有时我们因为傲慢与偏见，无法虚心听取别人的意见。有时我们因为傲慢与偏见，以为自己在做正义之事，其实却伤害他人。愿我会有智慧能学会，分辨是非。


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

Its hard to please everyone

Everyone is talking about the changes that's going to happen after PM Lee's National Day Rally! Went to lunch on Mon at a foodcourt, ppl sitting beside us are all expressing their views about it.. which pri sch can i send my chid to now? PM says HDB is affordable, how come I can't afford one? Govt want to earn more money la! are some of the comments I overheard. Are u happy with the announcements?

Just read a ridiculous article shared by a friend on Facebook, saying PM is stupid and should step down because everything said at the National Day Rally was stupid and did not address Singaporeans' concerns. Duh! What's wrong with these people????

No, I do not think the changes PM announced are perfect solutions to all the problems we are facing. For example, I am now worried that WL may not get into the primary sch we planned to put her in, because the places left for alumni is now greatly reduced. And Medishield Life just means that all shield plan premium will increase again, esp premium increased by a lot recently it's not really a good news to me. But, it's obvious govt is already trying very hard to please everyone.

Let's face it, Singapore is not a social welfare state, our nation is build by hardworking people who wants to improve their lives. We take care of ourselves, and government will provide the structure and system for everyone to have the chance to succeed in their lives. I believe this is the fundamental principle for Singapore to survive. Singapore is a vulnerable country, we only have ourselves to depend on to survive. But is the system fair and transparent? How about those who are not able to be in this system?

It's just like some ppl feel that it's not fair for Financial Advisers to earn commission. They feel that Man are greedy, and ppl will sell base on commission and not for  clients' benefits. But, shouldn't more hardworking and good advisers who did a great plan for their clients be rewarded more? Those who just sell plans for money can't stay long in business. Its either they cant deal with their own conscious, or they can't find anyone  to cheat anymore. Those who stay and earn are usually those with referrals, because their clients like them for what they did, because the advisers really cared for them. Is full commission system fair and can make sure everyone benefits? not really, it's a fact that sometimes some ppl still recommend a plan because of incentives. But it provides a natural selection process for survivals , and in the end those who work hard will be rewarded. Fair enough.

世界上没有绝对的公平，也不会有免费的午餐。

Hello! my appetite!

It's official that I'm in my 2nd trimester! I still feel nausea all the time, but hey! I can eat a lot now! feeling excited coz I can really go and have some serious nice food! like shabu shabu, or maybe some nice high tea... muahahaha...
I am also trying to eat more homecooked food, let's take a look at some of the food I cook for myself recently:

grilled chicken leg with pasta

closer look of my 蛋包饭

蛋包饭 with hotdog and asparagus

Bulgogi with Kimchi rice

Onigiri