this Sunday is my birthday.
the dilemma came when friends suggest to celebrate birthday for me : should I go out and enjoy myself or choose an activity that wl can be present too.
It is not true that we'll have no life when babies come along. I fully understand that it is always my choice, it's just a qn of 'what I am prepared to sacrifice'?
I enjoy wl's company and will always miss her whenever she's not with me. however she's just a baby, she can only be active for 3-4hrs before she'll get cranky, she has to eat on time, slp on time and have chance to move ard. Home is the best place if I want wl to be ard. ktv, chill out with friends, shopping, movies at cinema, holidays are usually impossible activities.
fortunately, my in laws are very supportive, and wl is always safe and happy with them. over the yr, I have overcome some of these obstacles with their help:
1) went for midnight movies while wl slp soundly at tampines with her grandparents, 2) went holiday to beach chalet with in laws, enjoyed some 二人世界 when wl played and slp at her grandparents room. 3) had high tea with friends and even had a glass of beer with a friend once!
Now I am going to push further, using my birthday as an excuse, to challenge my limits. I have booked air ticket to Bangkok and will leave my baby for four nights! and I am trying a night to ktv with friends before my birthday. as I declare the plans, I am feeling intense guilt and excitement at the same time.
can I survive?
1 comment:
I often face the same guilt too. I often feel that I already don't spend enough time with bl and I shouldn't take my free time away from him to indulge in adult activities. Then again, once or twice in a long long while shouldn't hurt. Wish us luck!!!
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