刚弄了一桌的三菜一汤。全被吃完了，开心！
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Saturday, March 24, 2012
Friday, March 16, 2012
教育与管教
很快格格就不再是只懂得吃睡拉的小宝宝。怎么才能让她成为个好孩子成为我现在的课题。
现在有空我就会播弟子规给格格听，希望她能潜移默化地学会该有的规矩，做人的道理。我其实之前也没读过弟子规，随便听听也觉得弟子规说得也都很有道理，直到前几天认真的读了一遍发现一件事。短短的26篇的弟子规，最常出现的字是‘勿‘与‘不‘。
规矩是说什么该做，当然也会包括甚么不该做。可是中国人的习惯总是以“压制”，“限制”，“不可以“ 等负意的词汇管教孩子 。打骂是必须的。
西方人大多都是以鼓励的方式，提倡爱的教育。也有研究显示人脑其实无法理解负面的词汇。比如你警告小孩不要碰你的钱包，很多时候你会发现你的孩子会更想去碰。
所以东方的孩子总是规规矩矩，安分守己，却略嫌缺乏冒险精神和创意，性格压抑甚至信心不足。西方的孩子通常是敢做敢为，自信，创意，但有时会任意妄为缺乏道德观念。
最近读到一篇文章，是说一位美国家长到法国发现法国的家长在用餐时都能悠哉闲哉地和朋友聊天喝酒。小孩都能乖乖在旁自己玩耍吃饭。对他来说，这是很不可思议。他的小孩到餐馆总是把盐啊胡椒粉啊番茄酱啊食物弄得一团糟，还会又哭又闹。所以他向他的法国朋友请教，他们是怎么管教他们的小孩。他的法国朋友一开始听不懂作者的问题，详细的问后他才明白：“啊，你是问我们怎么教育我们的小孩？”（he asked how the French 'discipline' their kids, but they do not 'discipline' their kids, they 'educate' them) 从小，法国人就灌输他们的小孩'patience', 耐性， 以及’delayed gratitude' 延迟的回报 - 类似付出后才会有回报的道理，所以他们不会急功近利，不会只是想着自己要什么，而是在适当的时候做适当的事。父母该有的威严必须有.父母的责任是教导孩子在对的道德，行为等规范里自由发挥。这个想法，我喜欢，也希望我能做到。
现在有空我就会播弟子规给格格听，希望她能潜移默化地学会该有的规矩，做人的道理。我其实之前也没读过弟子规，随便听听也觉得弟子规说得也都很有道理，直到前几天认真的读了一遍发现一件事。短短的26篇的弟子规，最常出现的字是‘勿‘与‘不‘。
规矩是说什么该做，当然也会包括甚么不该做。可是中国人的习惯总是以“压制”，“限制”，“不可以“ 等负意的词汇管教孩子 。打骂是必须的。
西方人大多都是以鼓励的方式，提倡爱的教育。也有研究显示人脑其实无法理解负面的词汇。比如你警告小孩不要碰你的钱包，很多时候你会发现你的孩子会更想去碰。
所以东方的孩子总是规规矩矩，安分守己，却略嫌缺乏冒险精神和创意，性格压抑甚至信心不足。西方的孩子通常是敢做敢为，自信，创意，但有时会任意妄为缺乏道德观念。
最近读到一篇文章，是说一位美国家长到法国发现法国的家长在用餐时都能悠哉闲哉地和朋友聊天喝酒。小孩都能乖乖在旁自己玩耍吃饭。对他来说，这是很不可思议。他的小孩到餐馆总是把盐啊胡椒粉啊番茄酱啊食物弄得一团糟，还会又哭又闹。所以他向他的法国朋友请教，他们是怎么管教他们的小孩。他的法国朋友一开始听不懂作者的问题，详细的问后他才明白：“啊，你是问我们怎么教育我们的小孩？”（he asked how the French 'discipline' their kids, but they do not 'discipline' their kids, they 'educate' them) 从小，法国人就灌输他们的小孩'patience', 耐性， 以及’delayed gratitude' 延迟的回报 - 类似付出后才会有回报的道理，所以他们不会急功近利，不会只是想着自己要什么，而是在适当的时候做适当的事。父母该有的威严必须有.父母的责任是教导孩子在对的道德，行为等规范里自由发挥。这个想法，我喜欢，也希望我能做到。
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Wednesday, March 14, 2012
shit in potty
I know it's a bit disgusting, but I am too proud a parent not to share....
Bought this potty last week at taka baby fair, though it wasnt successful on the first day of trying, fortunately or unfortunately, she shits at least three times a day, so i have many chance to try again. I was successful to collect WL's shit the very next day!
however it didn't turn out to be what I expected. It's more mess and cleaning up. Shitting in diaper is just remove dirty diaper, wipe backside clean, wear new diapers. Shitting in potty means preparing potty.and a basin of warm water before she wants to shit, shit in potty, clean the bottom in basin of warm water, wipe bottom clean, wear new diapers, clean the basin and potty, PLUS wash clothes, linen, floor or anything else that get soiled in the process..
Nevertheless I still must persevere for her good in the future.
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Yummy Aglio Olio "recipe"
Someone requested the recipe of the aglio olio I cooked and last posted.
I am not a great chef, hence I cook with gut feelings. I am sorry that I do not have a recipe... so here is my a rough account of how I prepared the yummy aglio olio:
Ingredients
Chicken wings
- marinated with dark soy sauce, light soy sauce, sesame oil
Linguine
- cooked in pot of water with a dash of salt
Green Vegetables
- cooked in boiling water, just for a short while so nutrients are not lost
Lots of garlic chopped finely, if u wan it to be even more spicy you could add chilli
Steps:
1）Boil water
2) warm the Happycall a little, place the chicken wings inside. pour half the sesame & soy sauce used for marination
3) While waiting for the chicken wings to be cooked, cook linguine in boiling water.
4) turn the chicken wings in between to make sure they are not burnt, pour the rest of sesame oil + soy sauce
5) noodles ready by now, pushed the chicken wings to the side of happycall, throw in generous amount of chopped garlic, then the linguine, mixed them well, close the happycall lid.
6) meanwhile, throw in the vegetables with the boiling water that was used to cooked the noodles, for a short while.
7) place the noodles and chicken wing beautifully on a plate
8) then the vegetables.
and tada! enjoy the yummy aglio olio!
I am not a great chef, hence I cook with gut feelings. I am sorry that I do not have a recipe... so here is my a rough account of how I prepared the yummy aglio olio:
Ingredients
Chicken wings
- marinated with dark soy sauce, light soy sauce, sesame oil
Linguine
- cooked in pot of water with a dash of salt
Green Vegetables
- cooked in boiling water, just for a short while so nutrients are not lost
Lots of garlic chopped finely, if u wan it to be even more spicy you could add chilli
Steps:
1）Boil water
2) warm the Happycall a little, place the chicken wings inside. pour half the sesame & soy sauce used for marination
3) While waiting for the chicken wings to be cooked, cook linguine in boiling water.
4) turn the chicken wings in between to make sure they are not burnt, pour the rest of sesame oil + soy sauce
5) noodles ready by now, pushed the chicken wings to the side of happycall, throw in generous amount of chopped garlic, then the linguine, mixed them well, close the happycall lid.
6) meanwhile, throw in the vegetables with the boiling water that was used to cooked the noodles, for a short while.
7) place the noodles and chicken wing beautifully on a plate
8) then the vegetables.
and tada! enjoy the yummy aglio olio!
Thursday, March 8, 2012
I love good food
I made this aglio olio with happycall, and it taste great!
Been feeling down these few days, as I start to question myself, doubt myself if I am a good mother.
Wl is no longer the little baby who just need to eat and sleep. She needs to be entertained, she needs interaction, she needs simulation, so she could grow intellectually. Therefore I need to sing songs, play games, be very high 'I' and high energy, which I'm afraid I couldn't do it.
Good food makes me happy! And I am happy that I have happycall!
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最近有点累忙
你们想念我吗？好久没更新博客了！最近有点忙，每天都好累。
可是也不知道在忙什么。。。
我没追连续剧，没玩电脑，游戏也玩的很少。
我到底在忙什么我也不知道。
早上7点起身，pump milk, 梳洗吃早饭, 8点带格格散步，9点帮格格冲凉，10点喂她哄她睡觉，早上还没过，我就已经累得想睡一整天了 。。。
也许要安排很多事才能做更多事吧。有时候就是越闲时间过得越快，人也越没精神 。
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