Attachment Parenting

I didn't read up about "Attachment Parenting" until it was mentioned in "2 broke girls" a super entertaining US sitcom about 2 broke girls. I mean, I heard about "Attachment Parenting", but didn't bother to find out what it is about. There are so many Parenting method, and all so confusing, and many times contradicting to each other... so i go by the natural method call :"instinct". (ok, i did try sleep training before, it was a disaster. so yeah, nv believe any parenting advice online... But since even "2 broke girls" talk about "attachment parenting", it must be something right? so i googled.


What I have gathered is that it is a method of parenting, by creating bond with kids, by breastfeeding, baby wearing, being sensitive to their cries and needs. This bond with kids will make them feel secure and grow up to be more confident and "better". This is contrast with the traditional method of instilling fear, so they will listen and follow what the parents say.

As a mother of two, all I can say is no two child is the same, so no method of upbringing will be suitable for all. But as the Chinese sayings goes, 物极必反， meaning if things are done to extreme there will definitely be a bad outcome. Yes, I agree we should establish bond with kids, and make sure all basic needs are addressed. Yes, I also agree that we should not always just follow what the kids want, we must establish in the relationship that we, the parent, is the boss. I believe happy parents makes happy children. So, our needs should be addressed first, before we addressed theirs. (u know, just like in emergency on plane, we should put on our mask first then put on for our children).

Before reading up, I always thought that attachment parenting is kids being so attached to parent so they will listen to you. haha... this is what happen to WL... she is very attached to me... it is very easy to discipline her. because she almost everytime needs my approval and attention. When I look angry, she will immediately stop what she is doing and almost nv do it again. (eg, like touching the remote control etc). When it is something more serious, and she became too emotional, I will put her in naughty corner, and ignore her. She wants my attention, so she will stop her crying and attempt to listen to me, so she will get her hugs... But for yl, I dunno, she doesnt seem as attached to me, maybe I did not spend as much time with her. She doesn;t really care if I am angry. I warned her about touching the remote controls and opening drawers, she will look at me and smile back and continue whatever she is doing.... >.<  Kid who is attached, do the right thing to seek approval. Kid not attached, do the wrong thing to seek attention.

Is it different personality, or is it really the bond between the two girls are different? I am not too sure... but definitely, it is much easier to have kids attached to you, so it is easier to discipline, easier to soothe them and comfort them when they are not feeling good or cranky. But, it is exhausting to be constantly wanted.

Food Journey in Hong Kong 2014. 吃在香港

前阵子到香港，不是我夸口，可是向岭的香港朋友和同事都对我们去吃的东西相当“赞赏”。许多都被他们称为“很local"。所以我就在这记录下吧！

DAY 1 (rather night 1)
1）港澳义顺牛奶公司 (铜锣湾)
http://www.openrice.com/restaurant/sr2.htm?shopid=5682
就在我们的酒店附近。因为实在太饿了，LPW的reservation时间还没到，我们就在附近找吃的，竟然看到这间店，依稀记得好像有看过是有人推荐的，就进去了。没想到就在这吃到我吃过最好吃的双皮奶，至今仍念念不忘。（现在想着也都好想吃哦！)

我们也点了通粉。也是这次我在香港一周末里吃的最好吃的通粉。以前对通心粉的印象是“生病时吃的食物”，一点都没好感。香港人好像对通粉有着莫名的喜爱，哪里都有卖，任何时间都有人在吃。

义顺的通粉和双皮奶，颠覆了我对这两个食物的印象；这两种食物我从“从来都不爱，也不会点来吃”到“好怀念，好想再吃”。

2）Liberty Private Works (Central)
http://www.openrice.com/restaurant/sr2.htm?shopid=32698&region=0&s=3
这是间超难的餐厅。所以在去香港的3个礼拜前，我就在网上订了位。那时星期六和日都没位了，所以只能订订周五。虽然有点赶，但没办法（我是大约旁晚6点到酒店）。这餐厅，不只难订，也很贵。It's fixed menu, and is at least HKD900/pax.

我只能说“物有所值”

Day 2
1) 陆羽茶室 (Central)
http://www.openrice.com/restaurant/sr2.htm?shopid=1966&tc=sr1
到香港一吃点心。上次我们已经去过热闹的点心，所以这次要体验不一样的香港点心。

这里吃的我觉得不算好吃，但是仿佛是在60-70年代有钱人吃点心的感觉。

2）兰芳园 (Central)
http://www.openrice.com/restaurant/sr2.htm?shopid=1966&tc=sr1
3)泰昌饼家
http://www.openrice.com/restaurant/sr2.htm?shopid=1966&tc=sr1

吃完点心，走路到SOHO mid-level escalator 逛。顺便在路上打包兰芳园的丝袜奶茶和泰昌饼家的蛋挞。虽然我还是喜欢新加坡的teh，但兰芳园的丝袜奶茶不太甜，滑滑的很顺口，和甜甜热热的泰昌饼家的蛋挞堪称绝配！

4）Jenny Bakery (上环)
http://www.openrice.com/restaurant/sr2.htm?shopid=1966&tc=sr1
其实奶茶和蛋挞是准备去Jenny Bakery排队时享用的，可是向岭说要从中环走路到jenny bakery上环的店，路途太远，还没到就已经喝完吃完了。还好我去的时候没太多人不用排队。
我们很客气地只买了5个小盒的饼干。没想到饼干太受欢迎，我回来新加坡没几天就送完，吃完。还好向岭还在香港，又买了几盒回来，而且是大盒的。
Addictive butter cookies.

5）再兴烧腊饭店 (湾仔)
http://www.openrice.com/restaurant/sr2.htm?shopid=1966&tc=sr1

烧腊是另一个到香港必吃的。因为答应朋友去湾仔那买玩具（湾仔玩具街-太原街=小孩的天堂），所以买完曲奇（cookies), 就到湾仔去，恰巧午餐时间到，我翻翻我的“功课”，选了再兴。因为在玩具街严重超支，到再兴时已没剩多少盘缠，省着点了一盘三宝饭一盘烧鸭饭。超好吃！饭也特别香。正吃得很开心时，和我们并桌的一对父女点了乳猪饭，烧肉饭，看得我们直流口水。。。

所以。。。我回新之前的早上，我又回到了再兴吃乳猪饭。卡擦卡擦 。。。

6）咖里鱼蛋 (铜锣湾)

没有记下店名。。。好像是在洛克街，铜锣湾。在我们酒店附近的街边小吃。买完，吃完后，我们暂时回酒店小休片刻。我忙着挤奶时，向岭跑去买的。意外地好吃。我们后来也又去买来吃。不只鱼蛋，还有鱼饼，鱿鱼，香肠等好料。辣椒是四川式的麻辣，可随意加。

7）爱文生 (深水埔)

http://m.openrice.com/en/restaurant/14257/愛文生?tc=Sr1

大排档是去香港另个必尝的味道。在香港大排档也越来越少，有可能因为这样也越来越贵?

根据网上推荐，爱文生是少有仍有足够"锅气", 随便点都好吃的大排档。

名不虚传。

To be continued.....

New office

We finally moved out of Shaw Towers!

If Lena didn't mention today, I would not have realised we were in Shaw Tower for 5 years!

When we just moved to Shaw, I was quite disgusted by that old building; dirty toilets, cranky old lifts, and distance from the mrt station. I secretly prayed that we will move back to Parkview Sq or anywhere more decent soon then. However, as days (or years) past, 'planning with a view' sinked in, and I got used to the convenience (and inconveniences) in that old building. Now that we are at Chinatown point, a relatively newly-refurbished building,  I am sort of disoriented.

It is definitely a much better office location compared to Shaw Tower, mrt exit is just at the building (no more stuck in the rain and cannot go office), there are so many amenities ard, supermarket, shopping options, cheap and good food, But, the problem is there are too many choices; at least 3 routes to go office from home, billions of food choice within sheltered walking distance. Is this like a first world problem or I am old, hence cant adapt to changes?

on a side note, I think I really old liao la... because of the new office layout, I Suddenly realised I am surrounded by ppl I dunno. I know our team expanded over the years, but I have only been hanging out with the same group of ppl over the years. I din bother to know most of the new colleagues. u know, ppl come and go , it is just so tiring to keep building new relationship and to realise the person disappear suddenly.
So well, I still kinda like the new office.... I guess...